Signs of emotional abuse in a dating relationship
He's into you because he needs to feel in control, and you are precisely the person who will fulfill that need if you do not run.
Or maybe he is, quite simply, someone who does not feel as though keeping his word is something he needs to do.
While I have parents who taught me how to notice the more explicit, obvious signs of an abusive relationship, I do sometimes wish I learned about the power of manipulation when I was younger.
When I write these types of articles, I imagine giving advice to my younger-self — the late teen and 20s version of me.
Those attempts at manipulation are not cute or endearing; they should be interpreted as the red flags that they are.
He's the guy who barricades a door so you cannot leave a room during an argument until you have allowed him to talk circles around an issue he created.
You think this could be the start of something serious.
I feel oddly — perhaps disturbingly — lucky and certainly thankful that I do not have any extreme tales of abuse to report. It is often insidious: You go from thinking you are falling in love to wondering why all of the "problems" in your new relationship seem to be your fault, and have no clear idea of how you got from point A to point B.
Perhaps you blame it on not having been in a relationship for a while; you decide you simply forgot how to be in a relationship.
The same goes for the guy who shows up to your home when you have explicitly asked him not to. He needs to know that he can manipulate you successfully, and this is one small way to test it.
He's the guy who says nasty and hurtful things about your major and or career in a way beyond innocent teasing.