Stigma of online dating
For starters, two of my cousins told me they met their spouses online.
That was news to me (proving my earlier point about the persevering stigma).
But if you stop and think about it, you may post photos of the perfect meal you cooked once this week, but youre probably not posting photos of the five other nights you reheated pizza. You dont show up to a first date unshowered in sweats or suggest you spend the evening binging on reruns of Buffy the Vampire Slayer. You style your hair to complement a carefully selected outfit. So perhaps theres hope for online dating after all. According to that same Pew report, 23 percent of online daters said they met a spouse or long term partner through a dating site.
Our online selves are idealized versions of who we want to be, not portraits of who we actually are. Anecdotally, I got a huge number of responses when I asked my Facebook network for online dating success stories.
According to a 2013 report from the Pew Research Center, 21 percent of polled Internet users agree that People who use online dating sites are desperate. More heartening, though, is the fact that thats an 8-point decline from the 29 percent of people who thought the same in 2005. According to the same Pew report, one in 10 American adults has used an online dating site, and 38 percent of single people actively looking for a partner have used an online dating site. Before e Harmony and Match.com, there was a computer-based dating program developed in 1965 by a group of students at Harvard, who thought matchmaking was an excellent use of the exciting new computer technology available to them.
I was pretty cautious about signing up for online dating because I thought online dating was only for people who couldnt get a date, and I also thought it was kind of skeezy, she said.Instead of searching for the tall, dark and handsome profiles you tell the site you prefer, for example, the algorithm might notice you actually click on profiles of people who are short and blonde.It would then start recommending more short, blonde peoples profiles.This is my lonely hearts club confession: Im jumping back into the world of online dating.I use the word confession because there still is some stigma attached to the practice.